Soldier for Women – My wife’s Brother

Hi All, 

A woman is the whole of nature wrapped up beautifully and sent to the world to make it a better place. She has the power to create, nourish, nurture, love and heal. Today, right from the moment the doctor tells a mother the three golden words, "It's a girl", a strange fear tugs the mother's heart. Fear of rejection, fear of what might be done to her because of the lack of that primarily important Y chromosome and the greatest of all, the fear of her little angel having to deal with rapists, eve teasers and dowry seekers. Each breathing moment carries a feeling of helplessness in the parents' hearts, when they see the apple of their eyes out alone in this big bad world.

In those moments of truth, it’s the brother/cousins who are of your own age and always acts as your friends for life. They are the protector and always are ready to go the extra mile to save you from all praying eyes. My wife is totally devoted to his brother Avanish who made her stand on her own feet. He helped her did ICWA and when that didn’t fetched her the job, he helped her to pursue MBA. He even helped her financially with the coaching fees, books, filling up all the forms and travel expenses. As she took admission to a prestigious MBA college he helped her with monthly expenses throughout for 2 years. She did manage to fetch a scholarship but all the other expenses were covered by him through his hard earned money. Finally he spent whatever was necessary to spent on her marriage to me, we had a love marriage and so no dowry was exchanged as we both saved money for our household goods and expenses through our jobs.

Overall, it’s his great love and sacrifice that my wife is happy with her life and what she is earning and what kind of job she is doing without MBA and with MBA. Avanish surely has helped her excel in her career and life.

Thanks a lot Saale sahib! 

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Soldier for Women - Guards at our offices

Hi All,

As I entered the my office today, the guard at the gate said ‘Good Morning, Sir’. I was pleasantly surprised as this is not a usual phenomenon (unfortunately even from our side) and returned his greetings. I have been left wondering if it was a small gesture due to the fact that today is some special day or; whether it was an individual act or a collective decision by the administrative staff.  Out in the civil world we do get to see feel-good gestures every now and then from some people but not universally. When it comes to a woman’s security the need is for a universally secure environment in which we live. 

But once you are inside your company campus the guards are always there for your help. Starting from parking of your car, bike to checking of your identity cards and bags they do it all. They even help you to get the cabs and auto's. They are the unsung heroes who must have helped thousand of women and men staff at various moments of day to day work at an IT industry. 

Many a times we don't even look at their faces as we are completely engrossed in what to do and how much is left to be done in software coding/testing and other activities. This is really unrespectful on our part to not condsider them as someone and I too try to keep an check on myself to respect each and everyone. We are always alert in case of our boss is coming which ways or wherever he/she meets us, why not these guards?

In the end, it may have been an individual gesture or a part of an instruction given to them by their supervisor. If it was the former it’s appreciated very much but is an isolated gesture. If it was the latter, it would have been learning for many and a step in universal implementation. Perhaps, many would go home and greet their womenfolk lovingly & respectfully today.

As I see them they are really unsung heroes of our lives and I really salute them for being Solder for Women! 

Thanks all!   

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Soldier for Women - What I learned from my dad?

Hi Soldiers,

Soldier is not the name but the attitude that some of us carry always and it is to respect everyone and come forward to support someone in distress. With society changing & deteriorating a lot in this uprising India we need soldiers not at the front but also in every walk of life. We need soldiers in buses, metros, every mode of public transport and on the roads, public spots, parks, parking…I can’t think of any location where we don’t need soldiers. With women becoming more and more independent & food earner of Modern India their security is always at stake as our society has not accepted the same at large. The political mindset too has not changed whereas all the Politician women power stays and lives in Delhi. That’s an irony of the thing but an event did reunited the whole country together & thought that women safety is a necessity and a priority. Helplines numbers have been opened but still incidents are visible as nothing has changed much so each and every citizen has to become a soldier in himself to save guard the women in their lives and society too.

Coming back to the soldier in my life is my Dad Suresh Kumar Jain who has always taught me to respect women and having the courage to stand for them in case required. He comes from a modest background with losing his father at the age when he just started his college first year. With 2 younger brother and a sister and no savings whatsoever he has to support his mother to run day to day expenses of his family. May be that was the time he saw the power of women in his life and took a decision to support them always. He did well to stand his whole family with the help of my grandmother and made a strong bond with all the family till now. All of us are now in very good positions with all kids of my generations are engineers and some has done MBAs from the likes of IIMs too.

Working as a branch manager in rural India Banks, my father has really helped a lot of women to stand on their feet with various government bank schemes to earn their daily living by opening small shops in their villages. He has helped settle family land disputes between brothers after father died and mother looking to sort out the matter. Family is of utmost importance to him as he understood the same very early in his life and so he was able to reconnect with all the rural people easily. He has various stories to tell us when we were growing up and that really made us to follow truth and remain ethical always. Good deeds will bring good results always! I totally believed in his motto for life.

Finally In the end all I can say that I still have to learn a lot from him and he is and will remain my soldier always! Thanks a lot dad!

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